As a 33 years old woman, I am
beginning to wonder about this “biological clock” deal. Last year, when I found
out I had Fibroids my Gynecologist informed me that my plans for being an
“older mom” needed to be revised. When I was in my teens I swore I would start
my family by 30. Well as 30 began to slowly creep up on me, I changed my plans
to having a child in my late 30s or early 40s. Keep in mind; I did not have a
husband (or a potential one) at that time. It was just another one of my lofty
goals. My doctor advised me to look on the brighter side, at least now I was
engaged to be married to my now husband. Her point being, there’s no extra
stress in finding a man.
Well here we are almost a year
later and once again, I am being reminded about starting now (if I want to have
a child). I understand since the beginning of time, we have known that woman
become less fertile after 35. However, our generation started a trend of
putting off having a family for the sake of securing a career. I guess there is
never a perfect time to start a family. For me, I am not ready 100 percent
mentally. I still feel very selfish about my freedom and time. Hell, I am still
adjusting to having a husband (it’s been almost six months). I know I want to
enjoy time being newlyweds but now there’s this pressure of deciding when we
should start having a kid.
I am very grateful for the fact
that my husband is extremely supportive of my decision. Maybe because he has a
son already, so there’s no immediate rush. But there is a sense of urgency on
my part, I realize my Mother is getting older and I would love for her to enjoy
her grandkid (especially since she’s retired and enjoying life). We also have
plans to do as much traveling as possible and once you have a child things get
reprioritize. Well I guess, I will find out the latest from my doctor during my
appointment tomorrow morning.
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